Disgustingly disagreeable. There's some suggestion the slang term originates from early Jazz tradition in the 1920s when musicians said players who had a good sound when playing horns could really blow; hence 'he doesn't blow, he sucks' to be bad and thence into common usage. Although that's possible apocryphal to allow it into dictionaries and the like without having to make references to fellatio, although I've never really understood why 'cocksucker' is considered an insult. Maybe because it's incorrectly seen as a submissive act and our culture rates power and dominance as features of a successful person.
...on occasion I talk too much, you should feel free to stop me at any time.
Well, I'm not saying it can't be, I mean, it often is, especially if consent is dubious, coerced or non-extant, but-- Inherently submissive? No way! For one thing, we have teeth, you know?
But in a coercive enviroment any performed act is an act of submission because of the coercion, not the act itself. And, and, and if you're, I dunno, okay, if you blow a guy so he won't kill you, that's actually an act of control, isn't it? I mean, choice, compromise as a form of, or, or, or at least an attempt to-towards self-determination. Just 'cause all your choices are crappy doesn't mean you don't have a choice. Not submissive. ...or if you're using it as a bargaining tool! Not submissive. And if you're doing it right, I mean, you can slow down, you can speed up, you can make them beg you to finish them, you, uh, you, um. *slight blush* Okay, suddenly I'm really uncomfortable talking about this with my Dad's girlfriend.
We can change the subject then. I hadn't expected to get into a discussion of the....finer points of the act, myself. You're right about the control aspect, I suppose, and bargaining tools.
1. If you could change any one thing about yourself, would you and if so, what would it be? 2. What is the best thing about being a mutant? 3. How do you like being married? 4. Why do people say there is gold at the end of a rainbow? 5. Where is your favorite place and time to visit with all the jumping around you do?
![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
timeasmymeasure
no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:15 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:17 pm (UTC)The good way I understand. I haven't heard it used in this other fashion.
no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:26 pm (UTC)...on occasion I talk too much, you should feel free to stop me at any time.
no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:35 pm (UTC)We rate power and dominance as features of success in a way, too, I suppose.
You don't see it as a submissive act?
no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 10:54 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-13 11:01 pm (UTC)We can change the subject then. I hadn't expected to get into a discussion of the....finer points of the act, myself. You're right about the control aspect, I suppose, and bargaining tools.
New subject?
no subject
Date: 2006-04-14 05:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-14 06:53 pm (UTC)1. If you could change any one thing about yourself, would you and if so, what would it be?
2. What is the best thing about being a mutant?
3. How do you like being married?
4. Why do people say there is gold at the end of a rainbow?
5. Where is your favorite place and time to visit with all the jumping around you do?
no subject
Date: 2006-04-17 10:02 am (UTC)